So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough
environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to
self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around
you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will
destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won‘t even
remember. Don‘t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which
dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of ?dog eat dog? theory where everyone else is fighting just to get
ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will
appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay
up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from
people concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem.
Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a
healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People‘s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers,
people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders,
patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your
self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can‘t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our
paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think.
Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help
us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must
be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It‘s okay to cry and say ?ouch!? when we experience pain. But don‘t let pain
transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around.
Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you‘re looking at. Don‘t wrap yourself up with all the
negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to
make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end
product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and
your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the
economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father
is a failure, it doesn‘t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people‘s experience, so you‘ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or
positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice.
Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not
a rule or a talent. God wouldn‘t come down from heaven and tell you –
?George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and
improve your self.?
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you
keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose
the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet
proof. Life‘s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will
get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means =self
change‘. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or
Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of
thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to
become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like
a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out.
When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and
discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment,
and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of
self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never
miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you
build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.
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